Be the change you want to see in the world. Give love.

Our great state and our nation have suffered many unspeakable tragedies this week. First, with the killing of an innocent man in Minnesota and the subsequent retaliation killings of police officers in Dallas to the tragic death of a little girl who was crushed by large pieces of a bridge that became dislodged after a truck ran into it.

The point here is, you never know when your time to leave this earth will be.

So spend time with each other; love a lot; hug really tight; kiss until you feel smothered; and always live each day to its fullest, doing everything you want and never miss a day without telling those you love how you feel.

AND, always choose love. Even when someone treats your terribly; even when bad things happen; choose to approach that person with love. Instead of firing back with hate or anger, take the higher road and give love. Remember when Jesus said, turn the other cheek? That’s what this means. If we all did this, we wouldn’t have these terrible things happening around us. Be the change you want to see in the world.

In summary, be patient and forgive quickly. Life is too short. So always, give love.

I love you girls soooooo much. You’re the best things that have ever happened to me.

Be the change

Today is always hard

August 31 is the day your daddy and I got married (in 2002). After two years of being divorced, it hasn’t gotten any easier to think about the significance of this day. Sometimes I wish we could just go back, when life seemed so much simpler.

At least two great things came out of this day – you two girls! And because of that I can always look at this day with love in my soul, despite my pain. 

“Running” and tears at Taco Bell

It was the last Thursday of summer break and Sienna and I were having lunch at Taco Bell. All of the sudden, “Running” by No Doubt came on the restaurant speakers and tears filled my eyes. Sienna asked what was wrong and I told her the song reminded me of daddy. She then proceeded to tell me that she heard the song “Say Something” in the car with her grandmother and she said it made her cry thinking of me and daddy. She started to cry as she recalled the moment, which made me cry more. So there we sat, in Taco Bell, both of us crying and neither one of us giving a fuck who saw us. We just cried – this was our moment of shared pain. 

Pain is the toughest but most necessary emotion to face. There’s no way around it so you need to just embrace it. To heal, we must feel our feelings and carry on. It’s ok to get stuck in the moment, feel the pain, but you gotta pick up again and choose to smile. 

The truth is, the tears of this circumstance will probably never subside, so we must cope as the memories surface. And never forget to recall the good times and smile. 

Missing you

When you are away from me, I miss you both terribly. Can’t wait to pick you up today and be with you. My babies.

LYTTMAB
mami

Being bilingual is being comedic

Sienna is so funny and she always says the funniest things. One day, Braxton was driving with her and they drove past the Lake Austin Pawn Shop. When she noticed the sign, she asked, “Do they sell pan at the pawn shop?”

Hence the title of this post.

Love my baby.

Believe in yourself. Say these things…

10 Mantras To Build Self-Confidence

1. Confidence comes through action.

2. The only approval you need is your own.

3. The fastest way to improve self-confidence is to do the exact thing you fear.

4. Accept everything you are — and aren’t. That is true happiness.

5. At the end of the day, what matters most is how you see yourself.

6. What others say is a reflection of them, not you.

7. You are good enough.

8. It isn’t who you are that holds you back; it’s who you think you aren’t.

9. No one can make you feel unworthy without your permission.

10. There is only one you for all time. Fearlessly be your true self. You matter.

Advice for my awesome girls!

My sweet baby girls. We are so blessed to be women. And on that note, please remember to always be yourself and do what YOU want. Here are a few tips to help you make it through this life as a bad-ass woman:

1. Chocolate is only a temporary fix.

2. A properly-fitting bra is not a luxury. It is a necessity.

3. Your happiness is your happiness and yours alone.

4. How to apply red lipstick.

5. How to wear the crap out of red lipstick.

6. A boyfriend does not validate your existence.

7. Eat the extra slice of pizza.

8. Wear what makes you feel gracefully at ease.

9. Love the world unconditionally.

10. Seek beauty in all things.

11. Buy your friends dinner when you can.

12. Wear sunscreen like it’s your second job.

13. Try with all your might to keep in contact with far-away friends.

14. Make the world feel at ease around you.

15. Walk with your head up.

16. Order a cheeseburger on the first date if you want to.

17. Never, ever bite your nails.

18. Swipe on some lipstick, put on your leather jacket, and sneak into a bar somewhere – but NEVER drink and drive.

19. Learn from your mistakes that night.

20. Dental hygiene is not multiple choice.

21. Your GPA is not a confession of your character.

22. There is strength in feeling your feelings and breaking down.

23. You don’t have to like yoga, but it might make you feel better.

24. Pick a tea.

25. Take care of your feet.

26. Pick a perfume.

27. Even if you’re tall, wear the heels anyway.

28. Classy is a relative term.

29. Drink whiskey if you like whiskey.

30. Drink wine if you like wine.

31. Like what you like.

32. Offer no explanation – Like Hepburn said, “Never complain. Never explain.”

33. Aleve and Powerrade.

34. You are no less of a woman when you’re in sweats and gym shoes than a woman in stilettos and a pencil skirt.

35. A woman is a woman is a woman.

36. Love your fellow woman with all your heart and soul – don’t hate and don’t envy; it looks bad and only hurts you.

37. Cry, uninhibited, with your friends.

38. Laugh until you can’t breathe with your friends.

39. Tell me everything -I’m your mom and will always be your best friend.

40. Exercise to be strong and healthy. A beautiful soul needs a sturdy vessel.

41. There is no shame in hoping for love.

42. My cooking is the best cooking.

43. Do not take sex lightly.

44. I mean it.

45. Anna Karenina. It would be wise for all of us to read it.

46. The world spins on the principle of inherent tragedy.

47. Do not be blind to it.

48. Men are effectively idiots until the age of 40. And even then, they need a good woman to take care of them. But they also need to step it up. Remember, you need care too.

49. Carbohydrates are not the enemy.

50. Involve yourself in an organized activity of your choosing.

51. Listen to classical music occasionally.

52. Take hot baths.

53. Buy yourself girly things, such as lotions, Hello Kitty and purses.

54. You are more than capable.

55. I promise.

56. Smile often, but don’t smile if you don’t mean it. Be true, even if it means feelings get hurt (but don’t be mean – there’s a balance).

57. Mean your anger. Mean your sadness. Mean your pain.

58. I am always, always listening.

59. Travel.

60. Be smart and sharp – always know your surroundings and be prepared for the worst to happen.

61. Make me proud.

62. Make me worry but in a good way.

63. Come home smelly, tired, and with a good story.

64. Life is about entrances and exits.

65. Always see the bright side and make the best out of terrible situations.

66. Well-fitting and modest is ALWAYS sexier than too small and tight (but there’s a time for small and tight 😉

67. Who cares if glitter isn’t tasteful? It’s fun!

68. It’s too much eyeliner if you have to ask.

69. Learn to bake and don’t forget the flour in the cookies!!

70. Humility and subservience are not synonyms.

71. Wash your face every night and always use moisturizer.

72. Be gentle with your skin.

73. Science is really cool.

74. So is literature.

75. Write your thoughts down – always capture the moment.

76. Start learning how to save money – think about saving more than spending.

77. There is no substitute for fresh air.

78. Carry your weight.

79. Make up for it later if you can’t.

80. That salad is not better than pasta and it never will be.

81. You’re fooling no one.

82. Find at least three green vegetables you can tolerate.

83. A smoothie is always good.

84. Expect the best from everyone.

85. Know that people will let you down.

86. Bask in the sun (wearing a sunhat and SPF 90).

87. There is a certain kind of man you need to avoid at all costs.

88. You’ll know it when you meet him.

89. What other people say is right doesn’t always feel right.

90. What feels right is where your happiness is.

91. Give thoughtful gifts.

92. Form an opinion.

93. Stick to it.

94. Exfoliation in moderation.

95. Argue with people when you need to; but pick your battles – don’t by a negative Nancy.

96. If it’s worth fighting for, fight fiercely.

97. Don’t fight for acceptance.

98. You shouldn’t have to.

99. Take pictures, but not too many.

100. Follow your bliss at all costs. (I’m cutting you off at 22, though).

101. Chocolate cake and cupcakes, however, might just be a permanent fix.

I LOVE YOU. YOU ARE MY LIFE. STAY HUNGRY AND DO GOOD!

Your worth

Girls, when you’re older and throughout life, you will encounter, become friends and maybe even fall in love with a man who you believe is the best thing that’s ever happened to you. But before you begin to think this relationship is indeed true love, ask yourself these questions:

Does this man make me feel like a Queen? (In other words, does he respect you, adore you and believe you are the best thing that’s ever happened to him?)

Does this man make me feel wanted and protected? (Does he give you unconditional love on your worst days, does he shower you with love, attention and gifts, and will he do anything to keep you safe?)

Does this man honor my beliefs and respect my wishes? (Is he honest, trusting and obliging when it comes to your requests to do or not do certain things that make you feel uncomfortable?)

While relationships can be complicated and absolutely reside on an equal level of give and take, it’s imperative that you know your self worth and never compromise your beliefs or standards in return for love.

I tell you all the time how you both are the most beautiful girls in the world. You’re smart; you’re ambitious; you strive for the best and work hard to get it; and I couldn’t be prouder of the women you’re growing into. And this is exactly why I’m encouraging you to never deny or compromise your self worth.

You are creatures unlike any other and deserve for someone to cherish and protect you without you having to sacrifice your happiness, beliefs or desires.

I love you with all my mind, body and soul and will always be here for you to guide you throughout life.

Stay hungry. Be safe. And always stay true to yourself.

When a boy breaks up with you

During the Halloween month of October, all the Twilight series movies were coming on TV. This particular night we were watching New Moon when Bella is crying and distraught over Edward leaving her.

Well, this scene sparks what ends up being an entertaining conversation with my daughters about break ups.

Solana starts by asking, “Why is Bella crying?” To which I respond, “Edward just broke up with her and she’s very sad.” Solana’s continues by saying something to the effect of…”well, if a boy ever leaves me, I’m not going to cry – forget him if he doesn’t want to be with me!” Totally an answer I would expect from my practical Taurus.

Sienna, on the other hand, immediately jumps into the conversation and says, “If a boy ever breaks up with me, I will kick and scratch him!!!”

Uh…what?

Solana and I burst out laughing at the spirited answer Sienna gives. And I hugged her tight as I expected nothing less from my cool, confident and assertive Libra.

🙂

Boys and the anticipated heartbreak

So it’s Halloween week and the Twilight series has been on TV every night. Well, two nights ago we watched New Moon and when Edward breaks up with Bella and she sinks into a depressive state, Solana asks why she’s crying. I tell her, well, Edward broke her heart; she loves him and he just left her very suddenly. And Solana basically tells me, well I wouldn’t cry; if a boy doesn’t want to be with me, then forget him; I’m not going to cry. To which I respond, you say that now, but when you’re in love, you may feel differently.

Little do I know that Sienna is about to engage in this teenage/adult conversation (of course she would; why would I think any differently.) Anyway, Sienna quickly says, and I quote exactly, “If a boy ditched me, I would kick him and scratch him.”

Yes. She did.

What??

After the initial shock and laughter subsides that she even knows what the word “ditched” means and that her form of coping would be a psychotic woman warpath, I told her that sort of reaction would not be nice.

Moral of this story? We got a fiery Mexican on our hands. Where does she get that from???

🙂